Cluttered House…Cluttered mind.

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No, this is not my house, mine isn’t this bad but I feel like it.

Here is my ‘scope for today:

You may want to spend some time at home enjoying the serenity that surrounds you which could make it easier for you to relax and savor the tranquility that lies within today. Perhaps setting aside space that is calm and quiet in your home could be a way for you to imbue your everyday surroundings with a peacefulness that you can bring to every aspect of your day today. You might, for example, consider making a special place for meditation, putting cushions, incense and maybe even an altar in a corner of a room so that whenever you need a few moments of peace, you have a place you can always go to. The simple act of creating a meditation space, you may notice, can also make the intention to infuse your life with peace a much more real part of your life.

Having a place in our homes for quiet contemplation allows us to make space for stillness and respite in our everyday lives. When we have a place that is dedicated solely for the purpose of calming our minds, breathing deeply and becoming centered, we automatically respond to it with a feeling of relaxation. Just seeing it is often enough to make us feel much more content about our life and training ourselves to be in this space will in turn help us to extend this feeling to everything we do. By creating a place for reflection, you will give yourself the gift of tranquility and peace of mind today.

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The move to the Ranch has been overwhelming for me. We have so much STUFF. I am constantly chasing cows that jump over or through the fences (1750 acres, and they want in my yard,), so I have had no time to really settle in. I need to Kill the Bitch Cow that keeps trying to gore me. I am going to take a few days off from worrying about my blog, so I can finish up what I need to do. You know how it goes…Cluttered House, Cluttered mind.

So…After the Bitch Cow is taken care of, this is what I will be doing and why:

Letting Go of Clutter – From the Inside Out
Ariane Benefit, M.S.Ed.

For many people who are used to being surrounded with all their things, suddenly having a clutter-free spacious home can cause a lot of anxiety! If you aren’t ready to let go, clearing clutter can be as traumatic as losing all your things in a fire…and in most cases, the clutter will just come right back! That’s why it is so important to NOT just throw everything out. You need to be ready. You need to take the time to go through your things and change the way to relate your things from the inside out.

Becoming conscious of why you hold on to things, and how much it’s costing you may be just what you need to motivate you and help you become “ready” to let go. Once you have reframed the beliefs, thoughts and feelings that cause you to hang on you can let go of the stuff you don’t need and experience the joys of clutter free living. But sometimes that’s not enough. Knowing the price you pay for holding on to clutter isn’t always enough to motivate you to let it go. Why? Usually because there is some underlying benefit you are getting from holding on to your clutter.

Perhaps your clutter is distracting you from painful emotional issues, such as a difficult life transition you may be experiencing like a death in the family, loss of a job, or a divorce. Some people use clutter as a way to get back at a loved one who doesn’t give them enough attention or hurts them in some way. Perhaps you use it unconsciously to avoid dealing with anger and resentments. Like depression, clutter is often a symptom of a whirlwind of repressed emotions turned inward to avoid dealing with feelings and expressing them. Understanding this is very helpful. Once you identify the “invisible monster” it’s much easier to fight it!

Ask yourself:

* What needs is having clutter around meeting for me?
* What am I afraid will happen if I let go of the items that I don’t use anymore?
* What void is the clutter filling?
* What do I get to avoid thinking about or feeling by keeping the clutter around?
* What stories am I telling myself about why I can’t let these things go?

If your clutter is serving to help you avoid dealing with deeper issues such as not being happy in your marriage or job, if you suddenly don’t have clutter as your crutch, the clutter will come back. And it may trigger serious emotional pain. If you understand the role clutter is playing in your emotional life, then you can begin to find better ways to deal with those emotional needs and gradually let the clutter go.

If you are having great difficulty letting go of clutter that is reducing the quality of your life, there is hope for you! Working with a professional organizer who is also a life coach trained to support people who are experiencing deeper emotional issues may be just what you need to finally let go of clutter – from the inside out.

It’s easy to just go along with life – perhaps we have a vague
feeling that this isn’t the way we expected it to be, or we might
even feel so overwhelmed by the demands on our time that anything
else seems impossible. Mostly, we don’t take the time step back and
think about the life we are leading or the relationships we have
created. ~ Jane Powell

The surest way to detach from one outcome is to reattach yourself to a more empowering outcome: serving others, replacing a bad habit with a good one, or focusing on the present.” – Stephen Shapiro,

This is true with decluttering as well. It is much easier to let go, when you have a clear vision of what you want in its place. Clutter is often a result of being stuck in or unable to let of the past. It could be emotional, or just not taking the time to clear out stuff you don’t need. To help you emotionally detach from your stuff, so you can let it go, it helps to focus on

The empowering present and future results you will achieve
How having less clutter will serve you and make your life better
Keeping only the treasures and things you really need in the “present.” ~ Stephen Shapiro

This is true with decluttering as well. It is much easier to let go, when you have a clear vision of what you want in its place. Clutter is often a result of being stuck in or unable to let of the past. It could be emotional, or just not taking the time to clear out stuff you don’t need. To help you emotionally detach from your stuff, so you can let it go, it helps to focus on

* The empowering present and future results you will achieve
* How having less clutter will serve you and make your life better
* Keeping only the treasures and things you really need in the “present.”

Here are some examples of the positive outcomes you gain from clearing clutter:

* A better family life with less fighting and stress
* More time to spend on things and people you really love
* Improved relationships
* Able to invite people to your home or office without embarrassment
* More energy (clutter actually physically drains energy and can lead to depression)
* More money (clutter usually results in buying duplicates of things you already have)
* Higher self-esteem (you feel better about your self when you are in charge – not your stuff)
* Less stress
* You’ll be able to find what you need when you need it
* Better health (less stuff to collect dust & dirt)
* It will be easier to clean your home
* You will have less mental clutter so it will be easier to focus on your present and future goals and get things done!

To help you detach emotionally from sentimental items, try meditating on the following thoughts.

* Things are NOT people! When you toss or recycle something someone gave you, like a card, a souvenir, or a toy, you are not throwing away the person. The same is true of duplicate photos. You aren’t getting rid of the person when you get rid of the extra photos.

* People don’t expect you to keep everything they give you for the rest of your life. They give you things to make you happy, and if having too much stuff is making you unhappy, they surely would want you to pass the things on.

* Keeping old clothing from an era in your life so you can remember it is a sentiment many of us share. I have a hard time with this too! But you can learn to let go of clothing too! One way is to take photos of them instead of keeping the clothes themselves. The thing about old clothing is that it needs to be cleaned regularly and stored properly or it will start to rot, turn yellow, attract moths and other bugs, collect dust mites and maybe even get moldy or mildewed. It also can be really bad for allergies. Why put yourself through this? Isn’t it better to pass on clothing to someone who can use it rather than take your time and energy or just letting it rot?

* Often people want to pass things down to their kids. This can be a good thing, but many people hold on to way too much on behalf of their kids. I’ve seen whole basements full of “stuff my kinds might want in 25 years” Trust me, they won’t want all their old baby clothes! Maybe a couple really cool games, but be choosy! Set space limits on how much you will keep. Give the rest to someone who can use your unneeded things now.

* Often people are afraid they will miss things. To counteract this fear, remember, things can be replaced, but you can’t make more time. And you can’t easily make space in your home without letting excess, unused things go. And if you do miss something, it usually passes in a moment and there is no harm to you. You don’t need that much to survive! If you find yourself missing an inanimate object so badly it interferes with your life, you should probably seek counseling to get at the root of the issue.

Letting go isn’t easy, but if you stay focused on your present needs and priorities, and learn to view your things with less emotion, you will be much happier. Mastering the art of letting go of your stuff is a wonderful way to build your self-esteem, gain peace of mind and feel in control of your life! ~ Ariane Benefit, M.S.Ed ~ Neat Living.net

So now you know:)
I am not even going to check my email.

Have a good week and I will see you on Friday. If I never come back you know the Bitch Cow got me , instead of me getting her.

Tally Ho! Onward!

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